“The more you know yourself, the more patience you have for what you see in others.”
  —Erik Erikson

self-care: reflection

Self-care is the practice of sufficiently prioritizing what helps you feel well. As one aspect of self-care, taking time for personal reflection has immense value. Plato actually valued it as indispensable when he stated, “An unexamined life is not worth living.”  Periodically reflecting on your experiences is how you make them into a life worth living.  Make yours feel that way through the wisdom of reflecting on it.

Whenever you need to, take satisfactory time to let your experiences settle within you.  That settling process is the first stage of reflection.  Once you settle down, you begin to gain greater clarity about your needs and wishes in relation to your experiences. Your needs and wishes matter for a life worth living.  They matter for feeling okay.  They are also the gift of reflecting, because your behavior reveals them.  Reflect on it.

Let yourself feel and think and seamlessly drift between one mode and the other over an uninterrupted period of time.  Give yourself that human privilege of reflecting as a way of valuing your life.  Reflection is not a waste of time, but how we discover our preferred connection to the time we have left.